The Complicated Pleasures survey and book project
There are relationship books out there for couples with incompatibilities related to religion, culture, political views, lifestyle and values, but there are no relationship books that answer questions like these. And these are exactly the kinds of questions posed to therapists, couples counsellors, sex educators and sex workers on a daily basis.
Fortunately, the answers are out there. Every day, all over the world, fetishists and their loving partners (be they fetishists, kinksters or vanillas) are finding their own creative solutions to make their sex lives and relationships work.
And we’re working to collect the stories of their struggles and successes into a book that could help millions of fellow fetishists find hope, perspective and lasting love.
Help others by telling your story
We’re looking for fetishists and/or the long-term romantic partners of fetishists who are willing to share the story of their current or past long-term relationship as anonymous case studies in our book Complicated Pleasures.
If you want to participate, the first step is to fill out our online form as honestly as you can. If we think you’d be a good candidate to interview for the book, we’ll contact you using the email address you provide and ask to schedule a call over Zoom.
Other than an email address to contact you at and a name we can call you (it doesn’t have to be your real one), we won’t be collecting any personal information and will change any identifying details about you in the book. You’ll have the option of doing a video or voice-only call through Zoom; if you choose to show your face on video, we will show our faces to you as well so we’re on equal ground. The audio from our call will be recorded, but no video will be recorded.
